It’s been a minute since I’ve really had a chance to actually write. My life has changed drastically since my last post. I’ve gone through a divorce. It wasn’t an ugly one, it just left me in a place of asking Why? The only thing she told me was, “I don’t love you anymore. It’s taken me 5 years to come to this conclusion and I want a divorce.” That really threw me for a loop. Yeah, we had our problems, but I never stepped out of my marriage; meaning I’ve never lusted/thought about, had sex (in any form), or attempted to get emotionally involved with another woman. That’s what I always told myself and I lived up to it. When I got married, I wanted to it to be it. I don’t believe in divorce. I believe that if she would have opened up to me, I’m sure we could have made it work. I assume that she was tired of making it work.
One big reason I wanted my marriage to work was my parents divorced when they reached 8 years. My father used to hit my mother and talk/have sex with another woman. That’s why I wanted my marriage to work. Things started to change towards the end of 2013. I did everything I could during the first part of 2014 to make it work. Suggested taking marriage classes and/or talking to a Minister. She didn’t want anyone on the outside knowing what was going on between us. After doing everything I could, I gave her the divorce she wanted. Before I signed those papers I made it very clear that it was her that wanted this divorce. Now we are working together to raise our 2 beautiful girls. I can say that since we now divorced she seems to be a little happier. I mentioned to her that it was good to actually see her smile and her happy. I have moved past the fact that it will never work with her again. One reason is because I have it set in my mind that I wouldn’t consider a relationship again. I really don’t want to go through those same problems all over again. I am happy and don’t want to get into another relationship at this time. I don’t want go through that getting to know another person, at least not right now.
I started my quest to further my education. I am attending Grantham University to get an Associates in Computer Science. Right now I am 44% complete. This is a big step in my life. To some, an Associate’s degree isn’t that spectacular, but taking small steps is better than not taking the step at all. My classes so far have been okay. I just completed my 1 semester. Classes for my second semester start on March 11th. I will be taking English Composition I and College Algebra. I’ve already completed American Government I, Intro to Computer Applications, and a class required by the University called Student Success. I would be lying if I said that I wasn’t intimidated by my next set of classes. I’m looking forward with just starting those classes.
In November of 2014 I won 2 tickets to attend the SEC Championship in Atlanta, Georgia. It was an awesome experience. When they first told me that I had won, I thought someone was playing with me or it was some type scam to get my credit card information. I finally realized it was real when they sent me a Dr. Pepper link to confirm that I really won. Other than that, I’m a student and a busy father. I decided not to coach this year, because I wanted to support my girls and give them all my attention. We will see how this goes this year. If I want to coach next year, it will be based on how this year works out. I need to get back in a groove to start writing again. I don’t want to force it, because I don’t want the blog to seem “fake.”
My Alabama Crimson Tide didn’t win the big dance this year, but it’s all good. Blake Sims did an awesome job leading that offense. It also helps to have one of the best receivers in College Football. Coach Nick Saban and Coach Lane Kiffin are 2 different coaches and have a different philosophy, but he jelled right in with the Alabama Coaching Staff. I’m looking forward to next season because I know that a lot of things are going to be changed and the team will have the right focus. Until the next post………#ROLLDAMNTIDE!